A few of my posts are sparking debates, more heated in 2 Facebook groups than what you can see here in the blog, and there are already several returning comments that I don’t wish to respond to one by one, from now on.
I do read each and every comment and appreciate when somebody reads my posts and even makes an effort to share their thoughts! However, those same types of discouraging comments again and again are consuming way too much of my energy and time, so I want to take them up here in a bunch.
Here is what some people say:
- The person you are writing about did not cure his lymphedema, he is only managing it!
Really? How do you know? Are you his doctor and not telling him something about his condition?
- Stop giving false hope to others!! There is NO cure for lymphedema! It is very mean to give false hope! Stop dreaming!
It makes me sad to know that apparently you have already given up all your hope about healing your body. However, that will not stop me from pursuing my purpose to find ways to heal my body and help others in doing the same, if I can. For now I keep going on walking this path, and probably will be dead by the time I change my mind about it:
“There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, and no tonic so powerful as expectation of something tomorrow.” – Orison Swett Marden
“Hope is the physician of each misery” – Irish proverb
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” – Desmond Tutu
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
“To live without hope is to cease to live.” – Fyodor Dostoevsky
And if you think that lymphedema is incurable, although there are people who have cured theirs:
You are most welcome to think for yourself that you can’t – I choose to think that I can, and I am certainly not alone.
For one, here is about the story of a man who thinks he can: A man who cured his incurable illness
This is the post that is evoking a big debate. It is fascinating to see in the blog stats that only about 1/3 of the people who read that post, will actually click on the link in there to see the story of this man – yet there are quite a few who will immediately trash the idea that it is possible to cure lymphedema and react only with one of these three types of comments!
- Oh, this is a beautiful one – and so relevant…: You are making money on us with your blog! You are SELLING things!!! or Can you please take down all those ads and make your blog simply altruistic, free from any financial motives?
I hear you. And sure I can.
First off: if you are suffering a disease and looking for solutions, is it really, really the first or the only thing you notice when somebody is giving you a bunch of tips that you could use which will cost you maybe a few bucks or in fact, zero?Secondly: Being 100% selfless and doing everything for others completely free is very honorable and noble, but did you know that even the Good Samaritan had extra money on him that he was able to spent on helping the poor fellow?I promise that at the minute when I will get all the medical visits and treatments, garments, lotions & potions for my legs, healthy food and nutritional supplements, a place where I can have a good sleep every night, comfortable shoes and clothes, equipment and passes for exercise, for free, when I get all the things that I would need to heal my body and keep it healthy, for free – I will take down all the affiliate links and ads from my blog. Deal?Thirdly: I congratulate you, if you have so much time on your hands that you can afford to give completely free advice to other lymphedema patients, repeating the same things a million times again and again and again in Facebook groups, each time whenever somebody asks the same question that had been asked before, it’s really nice of you – but do you know how much money Facebook makes on you, while you are doing that, selflessly?
And BTW, have you also contacted Facebook about taking the ads down? Or the tv stations you are watching to stop showing you commercials?Fourthly: In what way does it hurt you, if somebody buys 6 boxes of detox tea through my link, pays $23.03 for it to Amazon, and Amazon pays me $0.92? The person who buys it will pay the same price A-NY-WAY. But who knows, over time these drops of $$$ might pay a new pair of compression stockings for me – what is your problem with that?Fifth: There are many people who opted for waiting for and depending on insurance and benefits – instead, I opted for finding ways to create more money so that I can afford doing things for my health easier. What’s your problem with that?
Sixth: Do you have any idea how much work does it takes to create and keep such a blog?
Seventh: Simply don’t click on those ads, or don’t buy anything through my affiliate links! Do your own research on what products might work well and where can you buy them, if you are not satisfied with the work I have already done for you. Why do you make such a biggie out of it?
Really. Just don’t click on this, not to mention buying it: it is only a cutting-edge, incomparable skin care product which has about 50 known uses, such as itching and other irritation:
Eight: There is a Disclaimer on the bottom of each post. If you see anything in there that is ethically or more importantly, legally questionable (according to Hungarian laws), please do make a suggestion there. And basically this one point should be it for the whole topic of money on my blog.
- (When I ask back the person who is bashing the good results achieved by somebody else, about their own good results or at least for references to back up what they are claiming): But I have nothing to prove…As far as I understand English, it means one of these two things:
a) You my friend, don’t need to prove anything, because your results speak for themselves – Congrats! So would you please show us, what did you do to become free from lymphedema?
b) You don’t have anything that you could show as such a result that you are just bashing – then you better work on yourself, before trying to trash others!
Furthermore, it is utterly interesting to observe two things about people with these negative comments:
a) They don’t dare to show their faces and names here publicly, they would only say their belittling opinions behind a simple username or in a closed Facebook group, and
b) With only one or two exceptions that I have seen so far, they jump immediately to my throat, saying anything of the points above, often in a really angry tone. I don’t expect grateful bows or accolades for all the effort that I am putting in here, but if the first and only thing that a person has to say about something is discouraging, without even sweetening it a bit with “It sounds good, but I think that…”, “Thanks for posting, it’s interesting! However…”, or anything that would show just a tiny little appreciation – then that person needs to work on some issues, if they indeed ever want to get rid of a physical condition.
If you can’t be grateful for something that is, you can’t expect to have a better version of it.
From now on, if I run into these types of comments, I will just kindly direct the person to this post, and if more typical ones would turn up, I will add those to this list as well.
Of course, I will be very happy to hear if whatever tips or thoughts, stories I am sharing here, are helping others, even if just with a baby step. Please let me hear from you.